Help With Scat Addiction

Help with scat addition is not an article we thought we would have posted here. That is, until we got an email from a guy in the UK who asked if we could help with his addition to hardsports and scat.

He was very sincere in his approach and I dont intend to post his email here. Nor will I break any confidentiality. Let’s just call him George for now.

So, I got in touch with a Psychologist friend to ask them to help out and she sent him a letter that I wanted to publish here to help others that might have gotten tired of their scat addition.

Thank you for your question George, and thank you even more for the courage it takes to bring something so private into the open.

When people talk about sexual thoughts or fantasies that trouble them, they often feel a mix of confusion, shame, embarrassment, and fear. That emotional weight alone can make it difficult to reach out, so the fact that you’ve done so already speaks to your willingness to understand yourself better and to work toward change.

You are absolutely not alone in this.

Many people struggle with aspects of their sexuality that feel unwanted or distressing, and there are healthy, compassionate ways to address those feelings.

Coprophilia, like any fetish, exists on a wide spectrum, from occasional intrusive thoughts to consistent, persistent patterns of arousal. The first important thing to understand is that having a fetish does not make you broken or abnormal on a fundamental level.

Human sexuality is incredibly varied, and people develop associations and responses for a wide range of reasons, psychological, developmental, emotional, or sometimes simply through accidental conditioning early in life.

Recognising that you did not choose this fetish, and that it is not a moral failing, is an essential starting place.

Shame tends to amplify unwanted thoughts, whereas understanding and curiosity help create space for change.

Your question, however, is specifically about what you can do to stop having this fetish.

That tells me that this pattern of arousal is something that causes you distress, interferes with your life, or feels incongruent with who you want to be sexually.

When a fetish is unwanted, the goal typically becomes reducing its intensity, decreasing the distress around it, and strengthening other pathways of arousal that feel healthier and better aligned with your values.

While completely eliminating a deeply ingrained sexual association is not always possible, it *is* often possible to significantly reduce its power and shift your sexual responses toward patterns that feel more acceptable and comfortable for you.

The first step is understanding the emotional and psychological context surrounding the fetish.

People don’t develop intense sexual fixations in a vacuum.

Sometimes a fetish emerges because of a moment in adolescence that accidentally links arousal with a specific stimulus.

Other times, it may form as a response to anxiety, as the nervous system finds a very intense, unusual outlet for tension or emotional release.

In some individuals, elements of taboo, secrecy, or disgust can become erotically charged due to the brain’s tendency to connect strong emotions, even uncomfortable ones, with sexual arousal.

Reflecting gently on when these feelings first emerged, how they developed, and when they tend to appear can offer valuable clues about how your mind formed these patterns in the first place.

You are not doing this in order to blame yourself, but to understand the architecture of your arousal so you can begin to reshape it.

A second component involves working on reducing shame. Ironically, shame often strengthens unwanted fantasies because it creates an emotional loop that intensifies inner tension.

When you feel the thought arise, you might become distressed, try to suppress it, and then end up thinking about it even more.

Trying hard not to think about something can give it more psychological power.

What helps instead is developing a more neutral, compassionate attitude toward the thought itself. This does not mean you approve of it or want it; it simply means you stop feeding it emotional energy.

When the thought or urge arises, acknowledging it internally, without panic or judgment, can gradually weaken its intensity.

Many people find that when they stop reacting with alarm, the thoughts lose some of their force over time.

The next step is gradually building and strengthening alternative arousal patterns.

This part takes time, patience, and consistency. You can begin by exploring what aspects of sexuality do feel positive, meaningful, and aligned with your sense of self.

These might be physical sensations, relational experiences, emotional intimacy, or fantasies that feel healthier to you.

The brain is remarkably plastic, and when you repeatedly reinforce certain stimuli or fantasies while gently redirecting away from the unwanted fetish, new associations can develop.

This is not about forcing yourself aggressively away from the fetish, but about giving your mind something else to move toward, something that feels rewarding and naturally engaging.

Over time, the alternative pathways can grow stronger while the unwanted ones fade.

Another helpful strategy is addressing any underlying stress, anxiety, or emotional patterns that might contribute to the fetish’s persistence.

Many people find their unwanted sexual thoughts intensify during periods of loneliness, stress, or emotional vulnerability.

Learning healthier coping mechanisms for stress, whether that means talking with a therapist, developing mindfulness practices, engaging in exercise, or improving emotional communication, can indirectly reduce the intensity of the fetish as well.

Sexual expression is deeply connected to emotional wellbeing, so taking care of your emotional health often has a positive effect on your sexual landscape.

Working with a therapist trained in sexual psychology can be especially valuable.

A professional can help you understand the roots of your fetish, guide you through techniques that reduce distress, and support you in building new, healthier sexual patterns.

Therapy in this area is not about judging you; it’s about helping you feel more in control and more at peace with your sexuality. You deserve that peace.

Most importantly, please remember that having an unwanted fetish does not define you. It is a part of your psychological experience, not the sum total of who you are.

With patience, understanding, and the right support, many people find they can significantly reduce the power of unwanted sexual thoughts and develop a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with their sexuality.

Your willingness to seek help is an encouraging sign that you are already moving in that direction.